Exposed

Legal and Narcissist Abuse at Its Finest........


It truly doesn't get any better then this in regards to suppression of freedom. Hundreds of thousands of people in the U.S. are dealing with false allegations from their ex's who inappropriately use the legal system as a means of control. Blatant and biased Constitutional violations have become epidemic. We need to establish "no immunity" to the authorities of the court system as we did to the authorities in the Catholic Church after the Boston Globe exposed their intentional neglect of minimizing the knowledge of abuse that was corrupt among their officials. 





There are two fundamental issues here, Freedom of Speech and Abuse of Due Process. My case, along with hundreds of thousands of other cases(links below to other cases), are picture perfect examples where one party uses and manipulates laws for their own agenda, usually the party with money to hire the high priced attorneys. This leaves the party who is already living on a frugal, shoe string budget very little leverage to battle with. That is where we resort to our inherent right to speak out about injustices. However, the person with the financial advantage drags the person speaking out into court trying to silence them for fear of exposure, and to break them financially into submission of their will. It's a violation of not only our civil rights but of our ethical and moral responsibility to justice everywhere, in every realm. 

The lack of substantial consequences is the major contributor to manipulation of the system be it by a plaintiff, attorney, or judge. Judges are immune for their actions which results in a God complex for those who choose to abuse their position. An attorney who is well aware that their plaintiff is lying yet proceeds with filing an order is guilty of Attorney Misconduct under the ethical provisions, however, to sue an attorney for misconduct requires the person to hire an attorney which takes a substantial amount of money that the plaintiff rarely has. The Plaintiff that initiates the petition under the pretense of manipulating the system to their benefit is guilty of Abuse of Process, and the Plaintiff who purposely lies to get a petition is guilty of Perjury. 

Justice is a misnomer as it has nothing to do with justice, it has to do with law. The law is clear. Our Constitution states that our inherent right is Freedom of Speech. It also guarantees us that we are entitled to representation IF the case is criminal or juvenile. Those of us who end up in a Civil or Family Court and lack the financial ability to secure representation are literally screwed and that is where our Freedom of Speech is critical. We rely on this foundational propriety to be able to speak out "against a society of profoundly unequal resources, adversarial criminal justice, and ignorance of complex law, justice can only prevail if the state provides an indigent defendant with an attorney" as so eloquently articulated by the Supreme Court in Gideon v Wainright in 1963. 

Implementing legal and severe consequences for intentional misuse of our system will be the catalyst for this gross abuse of equality's diversion. Manipulation of justice for a self-serving agenda under the influence of money, power, or personal connections is ethically and morally wrong and should be punished accordingly, including judges, for the greater good of the whole. Until this happens, the general majority is playing on a biased playing field tilted to the Plaintiff's favor. Our First Amendment is our ONLY defense against this hypocritical system. We are a voice. The courts are ours. The judges are our public servants and need to protect the oath they were sworn to uphold without prejudice. 

History repeats itself when the lessons from the experiences are not honored. Have we really learned nothing from the people who have gone before us. This has been going on for almost two milleniums. It's time to change things up and make the playing field equal once and for all. 





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Honor



Weep for the country in it's present state,
And of the gloom which still the future waits;
The proud confederate eagle hears the sound,
And with her flight fell prostrate to the ground!

Weep for the loss the country has sustained,
By which her now dependent is in jail,
The grief of him who now the war survived,
The conscript husbands and the the weeping wives!

Weep for the seas of blood the battle has cost,
And souls that ever hope forever lost!
The ravage of the field with no recruit,
Trees by the vengeance blasted to the root!

Weep for the downfall o'er your heads and chiefs,
Who sunk without a medium of relief;
Who fell beneath the hatchet of their pride,
Then like the serpent bit themselves and died!

Weep for the downfall of your President, Who far too late his folly must repent;
Who like the dragon did all heaven assail,
And dragged his friends to limbo with his tail!

Weep o'er peculiar swelling coffers void,
Our treasures left and and all their bank's destroyed; 
Their foundless notes replete with shame to all,
Expecting every day their final fall,
In quest of profit never to be won,
Then sadly fallen and forever down!

~George Moses Horton

FACES




The FACES Project is a collection of black and white photographs of survivors of Sexual Assault and/or Domestic Violence on display in downtown Fort Collins every April. They asked if I would be willing to participate and I initially said no because I have never been comfortable being in front of a camera much less have my deepest darkest secret on display for the world to see. I finally agreed at the last minute realizing how instrumental SAVA is in what they do to promote the strength of survivors of a silent crime. Words will never be enough......thank you to my precious family, my loving friends, and the unconditional support from my bishop and the people in my church......and thank you  to my sweet, caring 16 year old son, Jordan for going with me to the event tonight!! He's 6'4" 270 lbs and is built like a herd of buffalo, I can't help but feel safe and protected with him by my side! :)  I'm incredibly blessed and am so unfathomably lucky to have so much happiness, so many adventures, so much fun, silliness, and really good bbq's in my life......what else is there!! :)~

Assault has no biases, it's not limited to social class, occupation, sex, race, religion and it crosses all boundaries. Rape is a violent crime and changes the path of the victim forever. I pursued law enforcement because of what I had experienced. I took a moral oath to protect women and children and others who could not protect themselves. To be a voice, when they had none. But even with all the training under my belt, what happened three years ago on the night of February 26th in Pagosa Springs, spiraled my life into a place that I was blind in seeing the obvious. I understand now how it affected every choice I've made since that moment.

It's only when we open up and recognize that even when we want to be strong, refusing to be a "victim", and to seek the help that is out there, that is when the true healing begins. When we decide to trust and be vulnerable again, is when our inner light is restored. It's a challenging road, yet the enlightenment and freedom felt is worth it. You can force your mind to forget or overlook what happened, and you can force yourself to think that you are not affected, but ultimately you are only fooling yourself. Your body and psyche never forgets.

I refuse to be defined by the selfish, hurtful acts of others. I am a survivor of a horrific crime and it has taught me so much. For that I am fortunate. I believe that every experience in our life, negative and positive, is for the needs of our soul to grow and become more humane. I had compassion and empathy before, but now my supply and understanding is limitless. Abuse in any form is a crime against the soul. Say NOMORE. Stand up. Be heard for the people who no longer can be, for even as we "walk through the valley of the shadow of death, fear no evil, for You are with us; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort us", forever and ever, Amen!



Out of the night that covers me,

Black as a Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul



In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced or cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.



Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how straight the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.


Invictus
~William Ernest Henley

Washing my hands of the cruelty I was trained to recognize and became a survivor of.














**More photos from the gallery to come....so check in! :)

Grief

Over the last few days, I've come to realize that most of the American culture doesn't have a clue about the emotional and mental process of grief or loss. We used too, yet now we minimize it, expect it to be over when other people tell us to be over it, to react as they tell us to react, to function as if nothing happened....as if we hadn't lost a dream in one split moment. Well, that is a far step from reality. Grief floods us from so many different situations, loss of career, physical injury, loss of health, death, divorce, disaster, trauma, and heartbreak and even though each one is clearly very different, at the end of the day, loss is loss and the stages are the same though unique to every individual enduring it.

For those of us who have had our share of all the different types in our lifetime, we recognize that we have to experience each stage in its raw individuality and pray that others will be able to recognize the pain instead of us trying to explain it, there is no rushing the process. With that being said, I'm sharing two articles I came across this morning after searching for answers in regards to my own situation, I hope it will give some insight to someone else's world. Grief is all about moving through the stages. About feeling the totality of its impact. It's about utter devastation, bewilderment, shock, emotional intensity, depression, sorrow, confusion, and all the inconsistent ups and downs of acceptance and denial intertwined into the same web. Part of the acceptance is that grief IS a roller coaster and the amount of time that one moves through it varies. A year is the standard worldwide culture for most losses, yet when it involves an intimate partner or heartbreak, doctors say to give yourself two full years, at least. The death of my intimate love took more than three years and time doesn't erase the heartbreak it only lets you manage it.

These articles are a glimpse into a world few fully want to acknowledge or are comfortable with, to expect a different reaction than this or to condemn a person because of their intense erratic demeanor, is unrealistic. It will be tough, but a little grace and empathy and maybe even a joke or two to lighten the load, will go a long way for someone who can barely see straight.  I hope these articles help others as they have given me insight that I "knew" yet had brushed away in order to appear strong which in the end, backfired. In reality, the pain has been profoundly shattering and the emotions that have come with it have been all over the board.....up, down, happy, sad, completely unrecognizable to my friends, family, and even to me. My life is passionate but overall I'm always able to keep a level head, for some reason, not this time. This is foreign ground. So, if I seem a little off or resemble Barbie on an emotional roller coaster ride, please realize that this too shall pass.....in time....and with a few hugs and laughs. The link to the first article below is specifically on relationship breakup: 

1)   http://www.helpguide.org/articles/family-divorce/coping-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm



2)  The 7 stages of grief:
  1. SHOCK & DENIAL-
    You will probably react to learning with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
  2. PAIN & GUILT-
    As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.

    You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do, or things you said or wish you would have said. Life feels chaotic, confusing and scary during this phase.
  3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
    Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame on someone else, friends and or family. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.

    You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")
  4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
    Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.

    During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did together, promises made that won't come true and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
  5. THE UPWARD TURN-
    As you start to adjust to life without, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly. You still don't trust your discernment or decision making abilities and wonder how something can still be affecting you so profoundly.
  6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
    As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions. You will start to work on practical things and begin reconstructing yourself and your life without the dreams that you had.
  7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
    During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy, in whatever form it may have come in. But you will find a way forward.

    You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your loss without the soulful pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.


Is This You....




The Invitation


It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for

and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.




It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life's betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me 
is true.
I want to know if you can 
disappoint another 
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life 
from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
"Yes."

It doesn't interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone 
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.

~Oriah Mountain Dreamer

I Am, I Said

There is a global communal shift taking place….a conscious awareness towards love and spirituality that is more prevalent than it has ever been. Even admist the economic turmoil, the constant conflict of war, the subliminal seduction of fear induced media, the distraction of technology, the plague of independence, success and wealth……beyond that…..there is an overall feeling that our world is moving towards a place of love, a place of community,  a place of well-being. It is all from the Divine Spirit, regardless of the label you may choose to give It, I say it is Heavenly Father, to others it has many names. Religion is only a vehicle to the true essence of the Divine, regardless of how one may associate and recognize It.

         The majority of us go through life pleasing others…our parents, an idea of what we had about ourselves, an idea of what society had about us. We are emotionally, mentally, unconsciously bound to that expectation….…so much so that we rarely ever sit back and genuinely explore who we really are and what we genuinely want….what our spirit calls to us to fulfill. Usually, it’s not until life's experiences set in and we have had enough..... aka “mid-life crisis”. It’s a wakeup call to live authentically. And the earlier in life you become aware of it, the better. The best way to change the conciousness of others is by your example. It begins with you. Everything. All things.

Growing up in Alaska where strong women were revered, sought after, empowered it was culture shock moving to the Lower 48’s. It took me at least a decade and a half to understand how the culture down here really worked and it was like stepping back in time 40 years to the Stepford Wives. Suppressed. Especially in the career and dating arena.  In general, men down here are threatened by a woman who knows who she is even though they may verbalize the opposite. In my experience as a woman in her twenties, thirties and forties having a career in restaurant, golf, finance, mortgages and law enforcement(which was the only exception because they were ALL protective), believe me, I have seen the entire realm professionally and personally.
 It wasn’t until moving to the United States (Alaska and Hawaii are only annexes of the United States and actually are governed under International Law) that I felt the full impact of being a woman. I began to second guess everything about me and tried to conform to other's belief systems. My self-esteem unknowingly plummeted and the standard I had held for myself did as well. If there is one thing I can offer to anyone, it is the empowerment of being authentic, genuine and true to yourself.  One of my most favorite songs in the world is by Neil Diamond….it’s “I Am, I Said”…it resonates deeply with me…saying…” LOOK at me….I AM! I AM someone, I feel, I laugh, I cry, I hope, I dream, I am a child of God...just like you,  I live..…..SEE me for who I am and not what everyone wants me to be”. Live your life authentically, without fear of repercussion, be true to yourself, always, no matter what the consequences because you will be leading the way and HE will make THE way. By doing this, we WILL change the world. :)

~With that I offer you the following~

I Am~


Unique
Worthy
Grateful
Blessed
Direct
Worthy
Loved
Precious
Gifted
Passionate
Thankful
Empathetic
Goofy
Beautiful
Contemplative
Valuable
Forgiving
Worthwhile
Fortunate
Happy
Vulnerable
Gullible
Anxious
Trusting
Witty
Faithful
Hopeful
Alone
Idealistic
Romantic
Genuine
Authentic
Compassionate
Fulfilled
Independent
Dependent
Open
Satisfied
Clumsy
Gracious
Content
Spiritual
Aware
Self-conscious
Depressed
Reflecting
Emotional
Uncoordinated
Giving
Creative
Fearful
Resourceful
Charitable
Inventive
Imaginative
Loving
Devoted
Loyal
Warm
Reminiscent
Magical
Soulful
Scared
Sentimental
Dreamer
Optimistic
Warrior






I AM……..YOU are……a child of God
be proud of Who you are and live your Highest Truth

Rainbow Healing Prayer




Rainbow, rainbow full of light
Take this healing into flight
Colors of the universe strong and true
Take this scroll of names unto You
Carry this healing near and far
We send out into mother earth’s core
Filling her with love and healing light
Up through the soil this rainbow of  light shines
Healing and love and all things divine
Take our scroll with names of love
And bring Your healing from above

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Now we take our scroll with golden names
For all to receive Your healing and  grace

We place this scroll within the rainbow
And as we stand beside and watch
Our scroll drifts upwards within Your  glow
Out to its destinations it goes
With the blessings of the universe
Taking them Home








Ashes

2 Timothy 1:7
For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.



Finally I came to the end of myself,
And coming to the end of me, 
Was the best thing that could have happened, 
Because then I looked to Him and I said,

Lord, I have nothing left to offer
But the ashes of my life

~Patsy Clairmont


Truth

"There is no weapon more powerful in achieving truth than acceptance of yourself"
~Swami Prajnanpad

He Came To Meet Me



He came to meet me

On some July morning

He said he missed me


He came without warning




We walked for half a day
Got lost in my neighborhood

Came back another way

Just like I knew we would


And he came to meet me

He had some stories

He knew a few of mine

I had not heard his voice

For such a long time

My mind would race a bit
Come back to where we stood
I could not keep hold of it
Although I knew I should







And he came to meet me

I'd seen this whole day

Like it was drawing near

Sometimes I'd pray for it

Sometimes I'd shake with fear

Sometimes the only thought

That kept me in the night
Was one that I'd forgot
In summer's blinding light





And he came to meet me

I wrote myself a song
I could not speak what I'd done

He could've been here all along

He could've been anyone

But there is no one who

Could wake my heart like this

Could break my world in two








I felt a suddenness, I felt a suddenness

The day fell completely still

The dream was a lot like this

But I never knew until

He came to meet me





My sweet Simon

Grace



There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. ~ Carl Jung

 It is only with great courage and by complete and absolute surrender in moving through it do we allow God's full grace to appear.



A Father's Love Letter


My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you. 

Psalm 139:1


I know when you sit down and when you rise up. 
Psalm 139:2


I am familiar with all your ways. 
Psalm 139:3


Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. 
Matthew 10:29-31


For you were made in my image. 
Genesis 1:27


In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28


For you are my offspring. 
Acts 17:28


I knew you even before you were conceived. 
Jeremiah 1:4-5


I chose you when I planned creation. 
Ephesians 1:11-12


You were not a mistake,
for all your days are written in my book. 

Psalm 139:15-16


I determined the exact time of your birth
and where you would live. 

Acts 17:26


You are fearfully and wonderfully made. 
Psalm 139:14


I knit you together in your mother's womb. 
Psalm 139:13


And brought you forth on the day you were born. 
Psalm 71:6


I have been misrepresented
by those who don't know me.

John 8:41-44


I am not distant and angry,
but am the complete expression of love. 

1 John 4:16


And it is my desire to lavish my love on you. 
1 John 3:1


Simply because you are my child
and I am your Father. 

1 John 3:1


I offer you more than your earthly father ever could. 
Matthew 7:11


For I am the perfect father. 
Matthew 5:48


Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand. 
James 1:17


For I am your provider and I meet all your needs. 
Matthew 6:31-33


My plan for your future has always been filled with hope. 
Jeremiah 29:11


Because I love you with an everlasting love. 
Jeremiah 31:3


My thoughts toward you are countless
as the sand on the seashore.

Psalms 139:17-18


And I rejoice over you with singing. 
Zephaniah 3:17


I will never stop doing good to you. 
Jeremiah 32:40


For you are my treasured possession. 
Exodus 19:5


I desire to establish you
with all my heart and all my soul. 

Jeremiah 32:41


And I want to show you great and marvelous things. 
Jeremiah 33:3


If you seek me with all your heart,
you will find me. 

Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you
the desires of your heart. 

Psalm 37:4


For it is I who gave you those desires. 
Philippians 2:13


I am able to do more for you
than you could possibly imagine. 

Ephesians 3:20


For I am your greatest encourager. 
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17


I am also the Father who comforts you
in all your troubles. 

2 Corinthians 1:3-4


When you are brokenhearted,
I am close to you. 

Psalm 34:18


As a shepherd carries a lamb,
I have carried you close to my heart. 

Isaiah 40:11


One day I will wipe away
every tear from your eyes. 

Revelation 21:3-4


And I'll take away all the pain
you have suffered on this earth.

Revelation 21:3-4


I am your Father, and I love you
even as I love my son, Jesus.

John 17:23


For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed. 
John 17:26


He is the exact representation of my being. 
Hebrews 1:3


He came to demonstrate that I am for you,
not against you. 

Romans 8:31


And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19


Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled. 
2 Corinthians 5:18-19


His death was the ultimate expression
of my love for you. 

1 John 4:10


I gave up everything I loved
that I might gain your love. 

Romans 8:31-32


If you receive the gift of my son Jesus,
you receive me. 

1 John 2:23


And nothing will ever separate you
from my love again.

Romans 8:38-39


Come home and I'll throw the biggest party
heaven has ever seen.

Luke 15:7


I have always been Father,
and will always be Father.

Ephesians 3:14-15


My question is…
Will you be my child? 

John 1:12-13


I am waiting for you. 
Luke 15:11-32


Love, Your Dad, 
Almighty God